These are the names of people most likely to ghost you on dating apps
However, one downside to online dating is running the risk of being ghosted - when the person you were talking to (and thought things were going well with) suddenly disappears and you never hear from them again. According to new research from Thortful, these are the names most likely to ghost you.
In 2018, a study published in the Journal of Social and Personal relationships found that about a quarter of those who took part in the study had been ghosted by a partner
The same study in the Journal of Social and Personal relationships in 2018 found that one fifth of participants had ghosted someone themselves
The term ‘ghosting’ was officially added to the Merriam-Webster dictionary in 2017, and is defined as, “The act or practice of abruptly cutting off all contact with someone (such as a former romantic partner) by no longer accepting or responding to phone calls, instant messages, etc.”
Merriam-Webster dictionary acknowledged that the used of the word ghosting in this sense has been tracked back to 2006, when people would set their instant messaging statuses to ‘invisible’ and ignore texts and phone calls
A 2019 BuzzFeed survey found that 81 per cent of people ghosted someone because they weren’t into them, 64 per cent of people ghosted someone because they did something they disliked, and 45 per cent of people ghosted someone because they were in a bad emotional place
Ghosting has become so prevalent in online dating that dating app Hinge implemented an anti-ghosting feature on its app in 2018, which encourages users to message a match if messaging suddenly stops
Traditional ghosting usually sees a person suddenly stop replying to messages, whereas a new style of ghosting called “soft ghosting” has also started to become more common. In this situation, the ‘ghoster’ continues to like posts on Facebook or Instagram, but does not message back
If you’re thinking about ghosting someone, Bumble says you should let the person know that you’re not feeling the connection in a friendly way, rather than going with the silent treatment. Even writing something as simple as, “Hey, it was nice hanging out with you but I’m not feeling a romantic connection - I’d love to be friends though if that’s cool with you,” would work.
Ghosting isn’t just exclusive to dating apps - a 2016 Plenty of Fish study found that 78 per cent of its single users had been ghosted in the past
EHarmony says that if you’ve been ghosted, the best thing for you to do is to avoid checking your ghost’s social media, or hoping that you’ll run into them at their favourite coffee shop. Unfollow, unfriend, block or do whatever else you need to do to help you move on